CLC services were awesome with a message- Connecting People: We're All About People~ I've tried to summarize typing nearly word for word plus a little of Pastor Jerry's outline. Check out the podcast if interested in the vocal version.
Sin disconnects relationship. Dishonesty disconnects relationships: What this adds up to then is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ's body we're all connected to each other, after all. When you lie to others, you end up lying to yourself. Ephesians 4:25 MSG
Resentment disconnects relationships. And don't sin by letting anger control you - don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 26-27 Hmmm...I've blogged about this scripture recently. Though I can't quote a specific source, I believe evidence exists indicating that harbored bitterness, anger & resentment, if unresolved, will begin to manifest via physical sickness. There's a reason the scripture says to deal with it immediately. Don't let it grow & fester, infecting you entirely..
- Be filled with the spirit...Ephesians 5:18
- Develop healthy confrontational skills
- Learn how to make an effective apology: if I've offended you in any way...not gonna cut it...take responsibility: I am sorry I _______.
Offer forgiveness to others - there will be times we are in the clear but still need to extend grace &amp;amp; mercy to another; forgiving one another as Christ has forgiven us. Colossians 3:13 NLT ...make allowances for each other's faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Careless words disconnect relationships. Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29 NLT
We need to learn verbal discipline in order to maintain healthy connections with others. And do not bring sorrow to God's Holy spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as His own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgive you. Ephesians 4:30-32
And there was more....connecting demands extreme commitment & produces extreme results. Good stuff~ As iron sharpens iron, so does a friend sharpen another. Proverbs 27:17 We need one another, folks. That's sums it up.
I have some friends I'd really like to reconnect with & asking God to help me take the right course of action...searching my heart & asking God for direction. I know relationships change; people change. I am the world's worst at hanging on far too long & I struggle with letting go; undiscerning of when it's over. I guess the social lover in me wants to love & be loved by- not by everyone, but wants to retain those relationship of sustenance; those I hold dear. Anybody else struggle with changes in relationships & how do you handle it? How do you know when it's over when it comes to treasured friendships? One of my Xanga friends sharedthe noteful line of a Dutch song: "when are we two friends that haven't seen each other in a while, and when are we friends no longer?" Precisely my question.